About The Author

Originally from England, though now based in Brooklyn, Ruthie Darling is a writer, photographer and actor. As a writer and photographer her work has been featured in Salon, Business Insider, Thrillist, Brokelyn, Boro Magazine and Hello Fashion (UK). Onstage, she was recently seen in Sting’s musical: The Last Ship. In her spare time Ruthie loves to swing from trapezes and is a dedicated consumer of cheese.

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My Story

The project began in the Autumn of 2016 whilst visiting my family in England. I was meeting my mother and brother for lunch and when we met outside of the train station, this is what my mum and I were wearing:

The infamous shot. Photo credit: my baby brother Jakie-Boo

The infamous shot. Photo credit: my baby brother Jakie-Boo

My brother thought our (accidentally) matching outfits made us look completely ridiculous and insisted a photo be taken for posterity. When I posted the photo on Instagram, the response I received surprised me. Mothers and daughters were messaging me about the role fashion and style had played within their relationships. Some fondly remembered shopping trips with mothers whilst others expressed how such outings gave rise to body image issues later on in life.

Everyone had a story and everyone wanted to tell me about it. I knew there was something there that I had to explore. 

My mother Sally and me in a hotel in London. Matching purses of course.

My mother Sally and me in a hotel in London. Matching purses of course.

My original concept was to create a coffee table book filled with photographs of stylish mothers and daughters. However, as I sat down with my first subjects, I soon learned that the relationship was in fact the star of this show, not the Manolos. I was genuinely moved by their willingness to be so candid with me. Sipping coffee in that Brooklyn bakery with Judy and Jenny as they told me about their fights, their bond and their enduring love, I felt certain that this book would become just as much substance as it was style.

After conducting several interviews and shoots I noticed that, not only was I learning about how resilient and ever-changing this relationship can be, but the mothers and daughters were learning new things about each other as well.

To my surprise, in every interview something was revealed by either mother or daughter that had never been uttered or expressed before, something revealed that would almost always bring one or the other to tears (and often, me too!) I realized that rarely is a person asked to consider what it is that they admire about their mother or their daughter and then given the opportunity to express it to them directly. Taking the time to stop and consider how the relationship works is a luxury few of us are afforded. In this book, we are given that chance.

No two relationships are alike, no two are easy (that's for damn sure), but ultimately there is no relationship as important than that between a mother and child. Throw designer shoes into the mix and well, that's why I need a whole book!